"I want a divorce" Four of the most difficult words to say and to hear. People who go through the divorce process feel an overwhelming amount of pain, uncertainty, self-doubt, and fear. There is fear of the legal system, fear for one's financial future, fear for their children, and fear for one's entire future. Simply, divorce represents a fear of the unknown. Is there any wonder why divorce has become villainous?
Although divorce is a hard process, I suggest that through the communication skills of positive conflict strategies, mediation,networks of care, and forgiveness, there can be a brighter side to the divorce, a "good" side. Suggesting to couples and families facing a divorce that although your divorce itself is not good, there can be good that results from the divorce. Accepting this idea would require people to have a change in their perception of the process of divorce and a change towards the individuals experiencing the divorce.
This change does not happen overnight, it takes time. but if people could remember that endings and loss are a part of life, then perhps we can change the beliefs about divorce.